In a failing relationship, boundaries enable you to run a bad situation through your thought process and come up with a viable solution that will keep your emotional well-being intact. Boundaries will enable you to apply the correct formula for dealing with conflict. Boundaries will also prevent you from handing out free passes to men who constantly exhibit bad behavior. Boundaries will prevent you from becoming overly stressed out. Boundaries will keep you on the right path to overcome any obstacles you may face.
Boundaries will make it easier for you to dismiss someone or something that is wearing you down. Boundaries will keep you afloat in situations where, if you had no boundaries, in all probability, you would head into the abyss. Having boundaries will also prevent you from allowing yourself to become psychologically manipulated by anyone. Having boundaries will keep you from abandoning your inner most principles. Having boundaries will also prevent you from allowing the scars of love to turn into open wounds that you need to nurse for an extended period of time.
Boundaries can and should be used in many different types of relationships – family / professional / intimate / friendship – just to name a few. You see, boundaries will prevent you from becoming avictim to someone else’s circumstances. And having these set boundaries with respect to your mate will also enable your relationship to become quite blissful, providing that the person you have chosen to make the commitment to respects your boundaries. These boundaries also act as a shield, or coat of armor.
Without boundaries, you will ultimately volunteer to help continue someone else’s bad behavioral habits. And once you continue to allow yourself to accept bad behavior from your let’s say your significant other, you have placed yourself in the precarious position of remaining in a relationship that will ultimately fail. You might initially start out as a victim, but your continued acceptance of bad behavior is what will ultimately mold you into becoming a volunteer.
Without boundaries, you risk becoming a volunteer. If you have boundaries, you stand a better chance of NOT becoming a victim!