As women, we can be very quick to pass judgment based on first impressions – whether in person, over the phone, or via internet. This is just part of our nature. We don’t mean to do it, it just happens without thinking about it! When a man doesn’t fit our criteria, we are quick to kick him out the door. But, wait a minute. Read these reasons why you should give your date a chance before you decide his time is up.
What you are looking for in a man, may not be what you really want.
What I mean by this, is that the checklist that you have so perfectly crafted, may be missing some key characteristics that you didn’t even know you wanted. You may not actually want a guy who is as outgoing as you, but you think you do. If you realize on date number one that he is not an extravert, don’t kick him to the curb. Give it a few dates before you decide whether or not his personality is a good fit with yours. Just because he doesn’t perfectly fit into your check boxes, doesn’t mean he’s not right for you.
Every Date Provides Learning Opportunities
99% of the men you date will not be your “one true love.” But every man you date will be an opportunity to learn about yourself and how you interact with men. Whether it helps you change or further refine what you are looking for in a partner, or how to deal with a difficult personality, think of every date as an opportunity to learn about yourself. Who knows, you may go on a few dates with a man and realize you aren’t right for each other, but end up with a really good friend. And you owe it to yourself to explore every relationship before you cut it off completely. Don’t sabotage your chances to learn, and, especially, to find your love!
Stop Self-perpetuating Cycles That Can Hurt Your Chances of Finding True Love.
Many women get into a rut, where if there are no “sparks” or if every check box is not checked after the first one or two dates, the man is cut off. Does “You are the weakest link, goodbye!” ring any bells? If you seem to pick the same kind of men and your relationships keep ending in heartbreak, maybe it’s time you try giving men that aren’t your “typical type” a chance. It’s easy to stay in your comfortable box and never step outside of it, but if you seem to be picking men that are not good for you, the only way to break the cycle is to put yourself in situations with men that are different and see what happens. You may be pleasantly surprised at what follows!
In summary, before you decide to write off a man give him a chance. What exactly does “a chance” look like? At least five or six dates. This will give you time to get to know him on a deeper level. True chemistry and love only happens when you feel familiar with another person, which can only occur when given appropriate time. Step outside of your comfort zone and enjoy the company of a man that’s not your “usual.” You might be on a date with Mr. Right and not even know it yet!